#ArchthatbackChallenge and My Farewell to Feminism

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I refused to call myself a feminist anymore. I can’t take the popularized, media-driven and brain-washed masses. I am really tired of watching the after effects of reverse psychology work its way through the movement like some virus. The latest disease, er, trend is the #ArchThatBackChallenge, which, much as the name insinuates is a challenge that has been issued all over twitter for women to take pictures to show how far they can arch their backs. While this trend has quickly picked up momentum, it has also picked up alot of backlash from conservatives, concerned citizens, feminists and has earned the ever thirsty eye of the chauvinistic male. As this week concludes, the online feminist society is torn.

Some believe that the challenge is degrading to women and that those who participate should be ashamed of themselves. Others believe that those people are just scolding women for being sexual. I believe that both sides of crazy. First off, I don’t claim to be an expert on feminism or women’s issues but this isn’t the first time that the movement has been divided by something like this. And it won’t be the last. We are all people just trying to get on in the world and with our lives. We all want a little fun every once in awhile, right? I think this was the initially purpose of the challenge but like everything it has it’s down side. The right wingers are right to some extent, women are being degraded. They are being examined, dissected and treated like pieces of meat but they are not merely victims but also perpetuators of a larger cultural norm that keeps women oppressed.

This goes beyond slut-shaming, body-shaming or anything like that.  By participating in a challenge like this, people ignore the larger social implications for self-gratification. Everyone must have their five seconds of fame but I wonder if those women who accepted the challenge contemplated the impact that you have left on future generations of women. With one picture, just like with one word, or one comment, you can change the projection of someone else’s life, wether you mean to or not. Don’t get me wrong, I think that every woman should be proud of her body but as a self-proclaimed feminist, you took on the mission to stand for choice and to support other women, including the future generations of women. People are using your pictures to shame others, to tell others that this is what they should be trying to be. You posted a picture, enjoyed the likes and the views and thought nothing of the little girls who may one day come across this. You let the media play you for a fool. Bravo.

This is why, I am letting go of the title feminist. I can[‘t accept partnership with women who are quick to get behind slut-shaming hastags and Miley Cyrus but won’t picket Capitol Hill for affordable birth control and appropriate sex education classes. I’m tired of going to rallies that quickly turn into conversations about sexual promiscuity (your sex life is your business, I don’t need to know) but we never talk about the negative side of the makeup industry. I am so sick of women talking about all this shit but when you ask them about pornstars they wrinkle their noses and clench the arm of their significant other. I’m ready to talk about inclusion, and how to make sure that young women or women in general world wide are being treated fairly. Let’s have that discussion.

I want to encourage other women to be proud of their bodies AND their accomplishments. I want women to know that you don’t have to accept such a challenge to be considered popular. I want them to know that their beauty and the magnificence of their souls can be found in more than just the arch of their backs or the sizes of their asses.

Real women stay strong!



Awesome Snack of the Week: Botan Rice Candy

Awesome Snack of the Week: Botan Rice Candy

Hi all!

So this week, I got a special treat from a friend of mine. He’s an Americano all the way and doesn’t seem to like anything unless it has a “Made in the USA” tramp stamp. (Sorry buddy but it is the truth.) So, he gave me this little packet of awesomeness called Botan Rice Candy. Ooooh yeah! Step aside snacks of yester-year you have new competition and it’s from Asia.

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Botan Rice Candy has taken the internet by storm over the past few years with several vlogs and blogs talking about it’s unique flavor and consistency but what few people know is that this has been a treat in Japan since 1998. Alot of us were in the back car of the popularity train, catching on to the trend just as it hit a plateau. It is, apparently, lemon-orange flavor and the interior wrapper is edible. It also comes with a free sticker! How cool is that?

So, I love this candy because it mildly sweet,  fruity, soft and refreshing. It is very mellow and doesn’t overwhelm the palate like some snacks. Another thing that is really great about this candy is that the super thin rice film adds to the flavor instead of distracting the palate or confusing the tongue all together. Don’t get me wrong, it does taste a bit like rice starch in the beginning but as it dissolves it takes on this light sweet flavor that blends well with the fruity overtones. In the end, it has a grapefruit-esq after taste sans the bitterness.


In each package you get about six small individually wrapped pieces and a free sticker. I got a hula girl but from what I have heard, the sticker possibilities are endless.

I gave this candy a 4.5 out of 5 just because I tend to like sweeter things but if you love semi-sweet, gummy morsels of deliciousness than you will love Botan Rice Candy. If you want to get some, the best place is : AsianFoodGrocer, they have the best price.

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On Long Distance Relationships

On Long Distance Relationships

Who ever said long distance relationships were easy was lying…big time. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months and have yet to see each other. He lives in Oklahoma and I live on the other side of country. We are quite literally separated by at least seven states. We Skype often and call each other almost every day but the distance is a killer.

Recently, I have felt like things have cooled between us. It’s still exciting but often I long for more. I want more affection, closeness and romance and I know that this only comes with close relationships but for the love of god why does it have to be so difficult?

When you are far away from someone, how do you keep the spark alive? How do you rekindle that initial bliss? Do you personally believe that long distance relationships can work? Share below.

The Act of Love

A few days ago the Huffington Post published an article on couple in love. Subsequent to that a few days later, they published another about a young homeless couple in love. After reading it, I had no idea what to say but my heart was touched. They still manage to love each other. To protect each other and when you take away the ‘American Dream’ that is what it is all about. We’ve been sold a tale for so long that now we believe in the cabalistic visions of our fore fathers. We have quantified and commodified love.

In the search for perfection, the media has sold us lies about what is right and what is wrong. Who to love and who to hate. Someone will probably call me crazy for saying this. It may come off a bit preachy but I don’t feel like I could continue if I didn’t say what I feel.

Love is more than the diamond ring he can buy me. It is more than the size of my stomach or the ripples of muscles on his forearm. Love is caring, it is protecting. It is doting warmth and sweet affection. It makes me hopeful to see two people love and take care of each other because it brings me back from the bleak statistics of homespun marriages. It reminds me that love can be found anywhere. Love can exist everywhere. Love is in everyone. Some people just can’t see it.

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